Listed here are three updates from previous letter-writers.
1. Ought to I work with this investor or run for the hills?
My letter was truly printed the identical day I used to be leaving for a trip. Whereas I used to be away, I had a while to actually replicate in your response and suppose by means of my subsequent steps. What stood out to me essentially the most in your response was whenever you mentioned that this investor appeared cavalier about my safety; after reflecting on my interactions with him, I believe this assertion hits the nail on the pinnacle. I’m additionally extremely grateful to the commenters for sharing phrases of knowledge. Almost everybody was urging me to not pursue this chance. A number of folks had even expressed that they had been in related conditions that didn’t pan out the best way that they had hoped. I knew in my intestine that one thing wasn’t proper, and I believe I simply wanted some validation.
I got here again from trip understanding I’d not be participating on this alternative and curiously sufficient, I by no means heard from the investor once more. This gorgeous a lot confirmed precisely what I used to be considering to start with, which was that he was maybe viewing me as a way to an finish. To be truthful, I didn’t trouble to achieve again out both. We primarily each ended up ghosting one another. I’m glad I didn’t spend any of my time giving him my concepts or data; my husband lately began his personal enterprise, so as an alternative, I’ve been pouring my free time into serving to him develop it. It’s been extraordinarily fulfilling, and I’m able to get that “entrepreneur bug” out of my system!
I sincerely want this investor the perfect in his enterprise endeavors, however I’m glad I didn’t take him up on this supply.
2. My new boss wants fixed reassurance
The excellent news is two-fold: Jim has had some wins in his space of labor that appear to have calmed his anxiousness at the very least to the purpose he’s not fretting at me continually about his personal work. He’s undoubtedly an anxious particular person although — I hear from him at the very least as soon as per week about how a lot he’s apprehensive that generative AI goes to take over his job. That’s simpler for me to disregard than a stream of anxieties in our one-on-ones although. The opposite a part of the nice(ish) information is that because of some massive miscommunications with him, I carried out shared note-taking for our one-on-ones and that has turned out to additionally assist give our conferences higher construction. We now have a shared working doc the place we add notes in regards to the present assembly on the high and save all of the earlier ones under. We each add agenda objects to this doc. It’s undoubtedly serving to hold our weekly one-on-ones on monitor and will get me across the subject that I don’t need his recommendation on something I’m engaged on as a result of I can suppose extra fastidiously forward of time about what to debate (oddly, he’s continually suggesting I take advantage of generative AI on my work duties, although he’s tremendous anxious about this expertise — I ignore that recommendation too).
The dangerous information is that his anxiousness is the least of his issues. He works extremely quick on initiatives that actually want considerate work, says sure to all the things with no prioritization for our group which has resulted in us being signed up for work that’s nowhere close to what we must be doing, and makes a variety of errors. After greater than a yr on this job, he nonetheless doesn’t perceive the basics of our technical area. I spend a variety of time correcting his misconceptions, though I’ve realized it doesn’t actually do a lot good so I’m attempting to tug again on doing that too. My grandboss, Jim’s boss and my former supervisor, is extremely uninvolved in our group’s work to the purpose I doubt he’s seeing nearly all of Jim’s errors. All this to say, I’m fairly positive I’m not lengthy for this job, which is disappointing as a result of it was once an important place. I’ve employed a summer season intern so am planning to remain by means of the summer season since there’s nobody else to mentor them, however am considering of giving discover on the finish of the summer season and dealing as a freelancer/contractor for some time. Very excited to be my very own boss! Thanks once more in your nice recommendation.
3. I intentionally over-claimed a tuition reimbursement (#3 on the hyperlink)
Shortly after I emailed you, I truly received supplied a a lot higher-paying job at an organization in California and determined to take it, so I ended up simply paying all the things again in full and it looks like a weight off my shoulders. I’m a lot happier at my new job too and have rather a lot much less stress. I wished to say thanks once more in your recommendation – it was very a lot appreciated.
